Saw many Facebook posts questioning the needs of taking care of others feeling. Their justifications are nobody will care about our feelings, we are hurting our feelings when taking care about others or it's too tiring to care too much.
Yea. I admit I somehow relate to these reasons. It is too hard to gauge others' feeling or opinion. Even myself, I am sometimes uncertain about my own feeling.
I was having a hard time to get along with my gang because they are much more sensitive than the people I had met previously. I find them annoying, complicating trivial matters, especially when it comes to assignment, I get frustrated very easily because I wanted to get things done effectively without wasting much time in "taking care about others' feeling". It is very frustrating when they are so reluctant to voice out their opinions in group chat because they care about others feeling, but how am I going to know their opinions via the phone screen wor cries. So we have to deal with each other via pm, and I need to pm here n there to ensure no miscommunication and everyone is aligned. Imagine the amount of time I need to spend on this gg.
However after some time, I find myself learning to be more considerate, especially when dealing with big gang of friends (my gang is the largest in my class). Sometimes I still fail to take into account everyone's feeling because I am just a normal human being and I am not paid for this pls. I know there are people who will appreciate and work relationship will improve in long term. The feeling is really good when your work is being appreciated and your feeling is being concerned. Learn to take into account one's personality, communication method, background and work style.
I become more grateful to have my friends too. They take initiative to help out and care about my feeling when I need to stay up whole night to amend or redo the assignment. Although I would be more than happy if they could deliver better work to me sobs.
It seems so stupid right. Spending my precious time on others.
We might hurt ourselves when we are kind. But still. I choose to be kind. That makes me happier. Teehee.
But it is very important to know when to stop when taking care about others. Got to love myself first before I can love others right. Also must know who we should spend time with.
So kawan kawanku pls appreciate CY when she spent her time chatting or makan with you k HAHA.
P.S.
GG today very lazy
Friday, 9 August 2019
Saturday, 3 August 2019
Aha
Saw Yung Yie happily shared her excitement at her Insta story. She asked why I seem so calm and emotionless.
Am I exited? Perhaps I am excited at the second I glanced my mark at my paper.
Instead of excitement, I would say it's sense of relief. There's no need for me to over pressure myself to score in finals, although I'll still work hard for it huehue. Luckily I didn't disappoint my tutor! Hard work pays off!
It seems weird that I'll feel very bad throughout the whole day if I screw up my paper, but I won't feel very excited if I manage to score (still got room for improvement)?
Maybe just too overwhelmed by unfinished work. I need a break. Urgh.
Friday, 2 August 2019
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